The most valuable thing I learned about approaching women (I've never seen it in a video)

After coming out of my divorce in 2019, I went on a few Tinder dates but still lacked the bottle to approach a woman in real life unless I’d downed a few Stellas.

Well, that started to change when a beautiful Spanish girl checked me out on a train.

We sat opposite and she glanced at me not once, not twice, but about five times.

And then I did.

Nothing.

I got off the train and thought, ‘A smokeshow just gave you a green light and you lacked the nerve to even try.’

I spoke to my friend afterwards, who was somewhat of a natural in this area, and I asked him how he could approach women so effortlessly.

He said to me, ‘I still feel afraid when I approach but you just have to go anyway. It takes guts.’

Damn and that was where I got it.

You just have to fall on your sword and take any hit to your ego that comes your way.

At that moment, I slowly started to take more action. And I expected to feel fear, which actually made me less fearful.

That’s the thing. Most dating content feeds guys the idea that there is an easy way out. Clickbait content like ‘3 hacks to become more charismatic’ has a subtext underneath it which is: ‘Do this and you won’t feel as scared.’

And that, fellas, is bullshit.

Fear is the reason most guys never start.Most of those that do start, quit.And if you start and don’t quit, you get ahead.

The average man desires social fluency, however it lies on the other side of consistent ego collapse, embarrassment and rejection. And that, for most, is a river deemed too choppy to cross.

The second thing that can put you ahead is structure.

That sounds boring as fuck, I know, but hear me out.

The thing that will actually change your dating life is rarely the thing that is clickable enough to go viral.

Think of it like this: dopamine rewards novelty (insert Tik Tok doom scrolling) however, developing the skill that puts women in your bed rewards consistency.

Next week, I’ll talk about the boring part that put a smoking Kazak/Russian girl in my bed when I was an overweight, long-haired, rucksack-wielding beginner in 2021.

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