I used to be a personal trainer, and one thing I was always taught was this: give the client what they want and what they need. Example: Sarah is obese, needs to lose weight, and wants to do crunches to get rid of her belly fat. We both know crunches don’t burn belly fat. Fewer calories do. But if I tell Sarah that and refuse to let her do crunches, she won’t stick around. So I give her both. Crunches and education around calorie restriction, which is what she actually needs.

After coming out of my divorce in 2019, I went on a few Tinder dates but still lacked the bottle to approach a woman in real life unless I’d downed a few Stellas. Well, that started to change when a beautiful Spanish girl checked me out on a train. We sat opposite and she glanced at me not once, not twice, but about five times.   And then I did. Nothing.   I got off the train and thought, ‘A smokeshow just gave you a green light and you lacked the nerve to even try.’   I spok

I was first invited to Warsaw to teach daygame in 2022 and was straight away shocked by the attractiveness of the local women here, and also by how modern and clean the city was.   After dating in London since 2019 and starting cold approach there in 2020, I decided to make a move and get a flat here. Fortune favours the brave and all that.   Fast forward to 2026, and I guess I am as qualified as any English-speaking guy in his mid-thirties to talk about cold approach in Wars

After starting cold approach in June 2020, I conservatively estimate I’ve done 3500 approaches in total, possibly up to 5000.    In this email I will share three personality upgrades I believe I’ve made as a result.      Not being bowled over by beauty When I got to Warsaw three years ago I met a Ukrainian girl on an aeroplane flight going from London to Warsaw (thanks cold approach). On the flight we got chatting and I was blown away by her looks. I took her on 7 dates in to

Picture this: you approach a girl, say hello, and she shoots back with,   "Sorry, I don't have time to talk."   At that moment, you’ve got a range of options for how to respond. The average guy might feel a little stung, mumble "Okay," and walk away. In fact, most guys never even muster the courage to approach a woman at all. But for those who do, this is often how they end up reacting.   Now, imagine a different scenario. When she says, "Sorry, I don't have time to talk," yo